Some weeks ago one of my contacts on Facebook shared a link of an article about a photo book called “The Bodies of Mothers” by Jade Beall, and then I saw her photo project “A beautiful body”, which both are about women and their bodies after pregnancy. Several moms photographed in their most natural way, without retouches of photoshop or something like that. I found it such a nice thing, to encourage women who have lived pregnancy and their bodies have now a different shape, stretch marks, or whatever. Society’s beauty standards set us (women) to get worry about what some people else will think about our bodies. That what the fashion magazines sell is a fantasy and unhealthy image of how a woman has to look/be. I have could read how some mothers now are “afraid” to show their bodies on this current summer season here in Europe. Getting obsessed for having a “beach body” or doing diets for having a “good body” for showing on holidays. Some of them calling themselves “cows”, “seals”, “whales”, etc. In short: body shaming.
I have been skinny nearly my whole life, and I have been ashamed of my body. I did not feel like a “real woman” because I have not big boobs, a big butt, nice long legs, my weight was/has been under 40 kilograms almost always. I never had that image of 90-60-90 that this society sells. But after having my daughter I felt confident with myself, I started to see that body shaming was wrong. This tiny and slim woman who I am, brought to this world a big, chubby and beautiful baby who full my heart with love (and sometimes makes me crazy too). So I realized that I was, indeed, I am and I will be a real woman, as anyone else. Maybe for some people I am still “too skinny”, for others I am “fat” or I have “flabby belly”. Whatever size/shape I could be, for this society’s beauty standards I will “never be good enough”, and you know what? I DO NOT CARE, I do not like perfection, because it is boring to me.
So, as a woman who since two years ago is a mother and experimented few changes in my body, inspired by Jade Baell’s photographs, I took my camera and shot some self-portraits, because I have also A BEAUTIFUL BODY.
Now, I want to finish this with some words of the great Maya Angelou: